What is so bad about feminine gay men as opposed to straight-acting men? Gender stereotype conformity...?

So many people, especially gay people, attribute positivity to the gay men who act more masculine and are straight-acting. Look on a gay dating website. So many guys have requests such as "no femmes please...gross." People of the gay community--open your eyes! You came out of the closet in hopes of transcending our conventional heterosexist ideals. And now you feel the need to conform back to society's labels of how men and women are supposed to act.